how to let go of someone

How to Let Go of Someone

Letting go of someone who hurt or betrayed you isn’t easy—and it’s not supposed to be. When someone you loved or trusted leaves you bleeding emotionally, your heart doesn’t just break—it closes. Walls go up. Faith gets shaky. And suddenly, you find yourself questioning your worth, your judgment, even your ability to love again.

But the truth is this: healing doesn’t happen by holding on. It happens by releasing—not just the person, but the pain, the expectation, and the belief that what they did defines your value.

Start by giving yourself permission to feel everything. The rage. The sadness. The confusion. Let it move through you like waves. Your emotions are not weakness—they’re wisdom trying to move through your system. Cry. Journal. Scream into a pillow. Release without shame.

Then shift into the sacred healing of the heart chakra—your energetic center of love, forgiveness, and emotional freedom. When your heart is wounded, its energy can become blocked, leaving you guarded, resentful, or numb.

To heal it:

• Work with heart-centered crystals like rose quartz (for unconditional love), rhodonite (to release resentment), and green aventurine (for emotional renewal).

• Place them over your heart during meditation or wear them daily as energetic support.

• Speak affirmations aloud:
  “I am safe to love and be loved.”
  “I release what no longer serves my heart.”
  “I forgive, not for them—but to free myself.”

Reiki healing, heart-opening yoga poses (like camel or cobra), and breathwork focused on the chest can also help move stuck energy and restore emotional balance.

But the most important step in letting go? Choosing you. Not the wounded version of you that tolerated the pain, but the whole version that’s worthy of peace, reciprocity, and soul-deep love.

Understand this: Their betrayal does not have the power to keep you stuck unless you keep feeding it with your attention. You’re not healing to go back—you’re healing to move forward, freer and wiser.

Forgiveness isn’t about pretending it didn’t happen. It’s about saying, “It happened. And I choose to heal anyway.”

You deserve a love that doesn’t require you to break first.
You deserve a life that isn’t tethered to betrayal.
And it starts with letting go—not because they deserve it, but because you do.